Well, i've done it, this girl I really like is pissed off at me at the moment and I am clueless as to diffuse the situation. It started with us talking, she seemed mad so i asked her if she was, she replied no. and then I used what apparently is a deadly line "ok, if you say so". then she thought i didnt believe her, then it escalated to her calling me overly accusatory when im not. then later, i texted her a song i thought she'd like and she replied "dont tell me what to do" and things got hairy from there. ended with me saying "wow. bye" and her "kbai" and we havent spoken since. What do i do, none of this seems to be my fault according to a friend, but would appologizing be the best option?one friend says i should, the other says that she could just be PMSing and to wait a couple days and not appologize. I dont even know if this girl likes me. we were introduced by a mutual friend over facebook, and we'e talked every day for months now. and she does text first sometimes. we've never hung out in real life, but we both want to. so... 1: how do i diffuse this situation, which friend's meathod do i use, 2: have i totally srewed over my chances of ever going out with her, and 3: how can i tell if she likes me? after this is diffused of course...

Thanks in advance for any help that can be offered

Dandaman918 18/m/NY

Thanks JudgeNeil, and this is the first time in 5 months this has happened. she's really not that bitchy at all, most of the time she's really fun and really random, and anything negative is kinda just put through with sarcasm which is easily managable for me. all of that i just love in a girl. she's not exactly hot but very cute.she's never had a bf either. i'll go with the cooloff method. but after a few days, should i start the convorsation by apologizing? and we have attempted a few times to get together but murphy's law is a bitch >.< and u really think she likes me? I get my license on the 31st, and I plan to make a big effort to meet this girl. Movie, mini-golf, go-karts? haha. Thanks so much for the quick reply btw, i'm really impressed! so the big question is... in a couple days, what do i do/say when i text her? apologize first or something random or idk, you tell me, you're the expert haha

Dandaman918 18/m/NY

she's not really all that bitchy, this is kinda a first. ok, i'm gonna go with what the cool-off friend said. Thanks for the help and the speedy reply. but a couple more questions... do i text her or should i wait for her to text me? and should I apologize? even though it wasnt really my fault? or what, what do i say? and you know for sure she likes me? I mean we talk every day, some days for hours about anything and everything. like i said, this is a first. i tried bein careful but murphy's law caught me on this one >_< and same with pretty much every other opportunity i've had to hang with her. also, this might be a hint she likes me... i'm big into the sport of airsoft, and she said she'd like to try it sometime. she's not the guns or military kinda person, she's artsy anime type. so to that and my question, whaddya say?

Dandaman918 18/m/NY

sorry for the double post, my bad haha first time on the site...

Judge Neil's Reply

Seriously the girl likes you...  Don't be too eager... A girl can smell a desperate guy and while it might flatter them for a while, ultimately it is a big turn off...

I would not apologize for something you did not do.  You will just encourage her to be bitchy.  Don't get me wrong  sometimes when you are with a girl you bite the bullet and say sorry for being alive but you have not even met her... Let her earn that relationship privilege!!!

Give her 1 to 3 days.  If she texts you by all means text back... Be friendly...  Don't hash anything out over text ... kinda hard... If she texts you being cool go ahead and call her...  If she does apologize be very gracious, you want to reward that behavior like training a puppy :)

Again, don't worry if she likes you or not ASSUME IT... Arrange going to meet her and treat it like a date.  I think you can take it from there!

don't get me wrong, she is hot! just not up to par with Megan Fox haha. close tho :) i'll play it cool, i'll be getting my license on the 31st so possibilities are endless there, so and a few days after it's cleared up (on a day when i'm not in college) i'll take her to lunch and a movie, how's that? and just so it's clear, wait 1-3 days and text her, or wait until she texts me? and if she doesnt text me in 3 days.... what?

Judge Neil, you are the MAN! (comin from dan the man that's an award greater than the nobel peace prize being given to you by chuck norris) I'm goin to college in wow.. 8 days now. she's not going to college yet, but will. and she'd still be close enough of a drive to see. any more advice ya got to offer? like in a week after this is all over should I draw her a picture? haha

Weeeell I got a little update. i texted her asking if we could put the whole thing behind us and go back to being friends, then she goes and accuses of me calling her a bitch. after a little back and forth of me explaining i didnt and her not believing me i just threw my hands and said "look i just wanna be friends again. if u dont want to, well ok." and she said it might take awhile. so it seems like i get a second chance. eventually... at this point i'm SERIOUSLY stumped as to what to do from here... please help me out :/ this is causing much explosiveness of confusionness in my brain

well i texted her first but i did NOT say i was sorry. (balls of steel big man) and for the record she became much more reasonable within a half hour. i think i calmed her down. and for the record... i like a challange in a girl. all part of why i'm attracted to her. I'll follow your advice and not make a move on her just yet until i'm 100% sure once i see around that corner. is that the right thing to do?

hmm... ok, thanks for the advice. (for the record we've been txting and talking for over a year now) i'll play it by ear. i wont totally give up on her, but if something better comes along i'll go for it. wish me luck?