Hi my name is candy and me and my boyfriend of almost 5 years. (working on the 5th year) are having problems. We both have children and have been married before. However, here lately we have been going tit for tat on some things. He thinks its me, and of course I think its him. I try, but it seems like he doesn't do anything on his end to try to make it work. He says he loves me and says he wants it to work out but, if he did it seems as though he would try harder. I moved out from where I lived with him about 2 months ago and we had lived with each other almost right at the beginning of our relationship. The reason for me moving out is because I got laid off from my employer and couldn't find a job (still looking) and my unemployment ran out so I felt bad about the money situation and didn't want him to feel as though he needed to take care of me. He got his own bank account after my unemployment ran out without even telling me. But, he never treated me wrongly or asked me what I did with any of the money in the joint acct that we had together. Then all of a sudden after this we would argue and so I felt as though I needed to move out. Anyway I moved out, I miss him all the time. I come to see him more than he does me. And I feel as though I do more of the leg work in the relationship to try and make it work more than he does. He doesn't like to talk about things that are on my mind as far as concerns in our relationship because he says "the talk will turn into a screaming match with me" which the talk doesn't even get to get started because he says that and it upsets me that he didn't give me the opportunity to explain myself. So the concern goes unheard of, as usual. I listen to anything that he talks to me about as far as his concerns with his job/ or if he isn't feeling well. I love this man with all my loving heart and would do anything for him. I still come over to his house clean his room, do his laundry- as far as wash, dry, fold and hang up. I make his lunch for work. I don't complain not one bit. And he says that I am a very sexy, attractive woman and that he loves me. But, I don't feel as though he means it like he used to . He has mentioned to me (only because I forced it out of him to answer) that he has fallen a little out of love with me because of the arguments. But, the arguments that we have are arguments that shouldn't get escalated if he could communicate with me better. I always thought that we should be able to talk about anything with each other no matter what. I have nothing to hide, so I want advice. and he is the one I want it from but can't get it from him or talk about my concerns with our relationship. He thinks that I am insecure about myself or our relationship at times because he says that I think he is doing something behind my back..(Which I do, at times) but only because he gives me reason to think so. Examples are- he leaves his phone (his quote to me) in the car and forgot to take it in to his ex wives parents house with him while he was in the swimming pool with his kids. - He doesn't answer at certain times of the day,- He leaves with his parents to go out to dinner when knowing I was coming over, and then says that he was trying to call me to tell me but didn't leave it in the message. Stupid things he does to me, I would never do to him. I think he is very inconsiderate. Then, when i try to talk about what happened - for example him going to ex wives parents to swim with kids, he doesn't want to discuss it because he thinks I am trying to start an argument and says I am jealous and insecure. I'm not either. I just want some communication. The same respect that I give him is what I would love to have in return. Please help, tell me what to do next!   

Regards,
Candy