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should i stay with my girl?
Last Post 04 Sep 2010 07:01 PM by JudgeNeil. 2 Replies.
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GreatOne



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04 Sep 2010 04:03 PM
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me and my girlfriend have been together for about 9 months now. ever since we've been together i can never save money. its not her fault because her mom kicked her out and stuff, but i just dont really feel a real connection anymore. we have little arguements about almost everything and im pretty sure thats not how relationships are supposed to be. I wanna be single but i'd feel bad for leaving her because she'd have to figure out a whole new life for herself. I love her but dont know if i wanna be with her. I am 19 and she is 18. We still have a few years to enjoy our young life but i dono. theres times i just cant see myself leaving her but theres times always in the back of my head about leaving her. I still think about my 2 ex's so i dono if that has anything to do with it. im pretty sure i have no chance with either of them anymore but thats not really the point. anyways. what should i do?... please help... :(
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JudgeNeilUser is Offline Posts:394



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04 Sep 2010 07:01 PM
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From your post it does not sound like you really care about her more than deciding what to eat on Tuesday.  Yeah you care, but not all that much.  Hmmm, I really like the burgers at Mcdonalds, but recently I have been craving a White Castle, even though it is far away and I can't get there.

I think you need to be honest with your girl.  You are both young and believe me you have more than a few years of life ahead of you.  Don't do anything stupid like get her pregnant in drunken after fight make up sex.

I do have to say that when you are honest don't just walk up to her and say you suck and please leave.  Don't be a jerk.  I would say give her some time to get on her feet and make other arrangements.  Maybe that means making peace with her mom or her getting a job and trying to get a room somewhere.

I think the worst thing you could do is to lead her on to believe you want her to be there.
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13 Sep 2010 02:13 AM
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I think that maybe you're staying with your girl sort of out of pitty. Becasue, I can see that you really care for her because I'm assuming that the reason you can save money is because you're spending it on maybe rent for you two, food, and just nessecary things in life.

Maybe you should listen to Judge Neil. Don't kick her to the curve eventhough you may not exactly have that same feeling as before. You should give hints that you're not so into her anymore. For example just not be as clingy as you might be or were. Also, just stop giving a fuck about the little details. Tell her to get a job so that she can start supporting herself more. And that way you will have some money too for your expenses.

So overal my advice to you is to stop leading her on because it's just going to hurt her even more later. And, end it before everything gets out of control.

tthatasiankidd. tennessee. 16
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